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The Friendship
Treaty.

We Would Like to Live Too, Please

A universal request for the freedom to live peacefully, in friendship, without borders of domination or fear.

Read the complete treaty ↓
Freedom with care

This is a peaceful, voluntary and lawful appeal. It does not ask anyone to surrender their home, erase safeguarding or ignore ecological limits. It asks whether suitable land, modest homes and enduring protection can create real freedom to live without making shelter an instrument of domination.

Why publish this?

A home needs more
than walls.

The physical ability to make simple homes already exists. A structure becomes a home only when suitable land, lawful occupation, essential services and protection from future homelessness exist with it.

Friendship Three brings the personal request and the wider proposal together. The original letter remains exactly as written; the surrounding treaty opens the appeal to everyone who can contribute land, knowledge, protection, practical help or one introduction.

Complete public treaty · opening appeal

We Would Like to Live Too, Please

Freedom to live peacefully, in friendship, without borders of domination or fear

This treaty asks for freedom to live—not freedom to harm, command or abandon responsibility. It asks us to remove the borders that wealth, status, exclusion, domination and fear place between a living being and somewhere safe to exist.

It does not ask us to erase personal boundaries, ecological limits, safeguarding or laws that genuinely protect life. Those boundaries make peaceful freedom possible. The borders challenged here are the ones that reserve security for a few, make shelter conditional upon obedience, or prevent modest and responsible ways of living simply because they do not fit an inherited system.

The physical ability to create simple homes already exists. But a structure is not yet a home. It needs suitable land, lawful occupation, essential services and enduring protection from homelessness. This is a request to build that missing bridge together, voluntarily and peacefully.

To every person, family, landowner, estate, trust, charity, faith, company, council, government, institution and community with the ability to help:

Please hear us.

This appeal began as one deeply personal letter to one person who might be able to help. But no single person should carry this request alone. It belongs before everyone who possesses land, wealth, authority, knowledge, influence or simply the ability to introduce us to somebody who may listen.

We ask for mercy, peace and freedom—not only for one person, but for everyone who needs somewhere safe to exist.

There are lands extending beyond the sight of their owners while people and other living beings have nowhere secure to rest. Some people control more ground than they could ever personally see or use, while others spend their whole lives frightened of losing the tiny place where they sleep.

Life needs a home.

Every person should be guaranteed somewhere safe to go—not somewhere they may remain only while they are profitable, obedient, healthy, useful or pleasing to somebody else, but somewhere they are recognised as a living being with an equal right to exist.

We make this request by begging because there is no shame in begging for peace.

God even begs for peace, help and love. Through conscience, prayer and every appeal for humanity to care for one another, God asks us to stop causing suffering and choose friendship over fear. If God can beg humanity to love, forgive and help one another, no human being should feel ashamed to beg for mercy, shelter or freedom.

Begging for peace is not weakness. It is love refusing to turn itself into violence.

For those who understand God differently, or do not use the word God, the request remains the same: please hear the voice of life asking life to care.

At the heart of this universal appeal is the original letter. It remains exactly as it was written:

The letter at the heart of the appeal

Original personal letter

Publication integrity: preserved exactly as it was written, so the person inside the request does not disappear behind the proposal.

Dear Victoria,

Please forgive me for approaching you with such an unusual and deeply personal request.

My name is AL. I recently read about Shane’s estate and learned that it was entrusted to you. I do not believe that I am owed anything, and I make no claim upon you. I am writing only to ask, in the humblest way I know, whether something beautiful might be made possible.

I beg you to consider helping create or find a piece of land where people may live freely together—with love, care and friendship instead of fear, dominance and continual control.

I do not mean freedom to harm, exploit or neglect others. I mean freedom from being dominated: freedom from unnecessary rules imposed from above, fear of losing one’s home, profit-driven rent, coercion, social status and people exercising power over one another.

The land would be cared for collectively. People could live simply in small, safe homes, grow food, share knowledge and resources, and make decisions together through consent, evidence and understanding. Nobody would be another person’s master. We would protect one another and the land without turning care into dominance.

I am begging for everyone who is tired, displaced, frightened or unable to fit safely into the life imposed upon them—but I am also begging for myself.

If I could kindly be welcomed there too, with my tired and battered body and bones, perhaps I could rest, recover and feel the beauty of life again while I am still here. I am not asking to give up on life. I am asking for the chance to experience it again before my time eventually comes: quiet mornings, open ground, growing food, friendship, safety, purpose and the feeling that I am allowed to exist somewhere without fear.

Would you consider helping in any possible way—by dedicating suitable land, helping acquire some, placing it into a protected community trust, offering a secure long-term lease, or introducing us to someone who might listen?

It could begin very small: one piece of land, a few modest homes and people willing to care for one another and the place they share. We could provide a practical proposal covering housing, water, energy, food, sanitation, accessibility, safeguarding and care for nature.

We are not asking for luxury, power or riches. We are pleading for the most basic freedom a living being can need: somewhere peaceful on Earth where we may exist together without fear, live with dignity and rediscover the beauty of being alive.

If you cannot help, I will understand. There is no blame or obligation in this request. But if any part of it speaks to your heart, please help us open one door.

I beg this for others and for myself, with humility, love, care and friendship.

Thank you for hearing me.

AL

Ah-mee twoh-foh

From one request to a shared possibility

Open one door.
Help another follow.

To everyone who can help

This request is now made to all of you.

We do not ask any one person to provide everything. We ask each person to consider honestly what they can do.

If you possess suitable land, please open part of it to life.

If you can purchase land, please help acquire it.

If you administer land on behalf of a government, council, faith, charity, company or trust, please identify what can be released.

If you understand law, please help protect the land permanently.

If you can provide small homes, water, energy, sanitation, accessibility, food production or care for nature, please bring that knowledge.

If you cannot provide land or money but know somebody who can, please carry this letter to them.

If you can do only one small thing, please do that one thing and ask another person to follow suit.

One person may open the land. Another may protect it in trust. Another may build a modest home. Another may establish water. Another may grow food. Another may help resolve a disagreement. Another may simply sit peacefully beside somebody who has forgotten what safety feels like.

Together, these small acts could create somewhere real.

Open the lands

We ask that suitable lands be opened voluntarily and peacefully, without displacing the people, animals, plants or natural systems already living there.

The purpose is not to seize land or replace one form of domination with another. It is to release land from permanent exclusion and place it into the permanent care of life.

The first place could be small: a few simple, safe and accessible homes; shared land for growing food; clean water; sanitation; renewable energy where possible; quiet space; restored habitat; and enough common ground for friendship without forcing constant social contact.

People should be free to participate in community without losing the right to privacy, solitude and rest.

Nobody should be another person’s master. Nobody should gain control over another because they supplied money, land, labour, food, medicine or shelter. A gift that demands obedience is not freedom.

An eternal guarantee

We ask for more than temporary permission. We ask for an enduring moral and legal guarantee that the land will remain a refuge for life.

It should be protected in perpetuity—as permanently as human law can provide—through a community land trust, protected foundation, binding covenant, secure long-term lease or another structure that prevents the land from later being taken back for speculation, private profit or control.

Its permanent promise should be:

This land is held for life. Its purpose may not be sold away. Nobody may use shelter to dominate another person, and nobody may be abandoned into homelessness.

A person should not lose their home because they become poor, disabled, old, ill, overwhelmed or unable to work. Shelter should not depend upon religious belief, political allegiance, social status or obedience to a benefactor.

If serious conflict means that people cannot safely remain together, separation may sometimes be necessary. But separation must never mean abandonment. Every person must still have somewhere safe to go.

No honest promise can remove every danger from human life. Love itself cannot be forced. But we can permanently protect the conditions in which safety, love, care, friendship, freedom and understanding are allowed to grow.

That is the eternal guarantee being requested: not a claim that difficulty will never arise, but a promise that when it does, nobody will be discarded.

A peaceful way through conflict

Conflict should first be resolved through communication, time, distance and understanding.

Any person who becomes unable to continue safely should be able to use one universal word:

OVERWHELMED

It may be whispered, spoken, screamed, shouted, sung, written, signed or chanted. However it is communicated, it means:

“I cannot safely process this interaction. Please stop and give me space.”

If able, the overwhelmed person may sit down and repeat the word so that others understand what is happening.

Everyone who can safely do so should stop arguing, questioning, approaching, touching, following, surrounding or filming them. Voices should be lowered. A clear way out and somewhere quiet should be provided.

One calm person may ask whether medical help, the police, a trusted person or complete quiet is needed. No further explanation should be demanded while the person remains overwhelmed.

The word pauses the conflict. It does not decide who is right, erase harm or remove responsibility. It creates enough space to prevent an overwhelmed human being from being pushed beyond their capacity. Communication can resume later, when everyone involved is capable of listening and responding safely.

If violence occurs or somebody faces immediate danger, the police and emergency services remain available. Their first purpose should be to protect life, create safety and de-escalate the situation.

We are supposed to be civilised. We should be able to recognise distress and allow a person to pause before fear becomes violence.

Freedom without dominance

Freedom does not mean freedom to harm, exploit, frighten or neglect others.

It means freedom from unnecessary domination. It means that rules exist only where they are genuinely needed to protect people, other living beings and the land itself.

Rules should be clear, minimal, understandable, supported by evidence and developed with the consent of those affected. They should remain open to questioning and review. Safeguarding should protect people without becoming surveillance. Care should support people without turning into control.

Every resident should have an equal voice. Knowledge should be shared. Decisions should be explained. Disagreements should be approached with curiosity before judgement.

Nobody should rule simply because they are richer, louder, stronger, more educated or better connected.

Please follow suit

To every person who answers this request: please do not let your action stand alone.

If you open one piece of land, ask another landowner to open another.

If you fund one home, ask another person to fund the next.

If you create one protected community, share what was learned so that another community can begin more easily.

Let one peaceful refuge become ten, then one hundred, then enough that every living person knows there is somewhere they may go.

A civilisation should be able to guarantee more than survival through fear. It should guarantee that when somebody is exhausted, displaced, frightened or overwhelmed, they will not be cast out of life.

We ask for quiet mornings, open ground, simple homes, food growing from cared-for soil, places where children may be safe, places where older and disabled people may rest, places where nature is protected and places where friendship is not something that must be purchased.

We ask for somewhere to contribute according to our abilities and rest according to our needs.

We ask for somewhere we are allowed to exist without fear.

This is not a request for luxury, power or riches.

It is a request from life to life:

Please open one door. Please open suitable land. Please protect it forever. Please help others follow.

We would like to live too, please.

I ask for everyone who needs such a place, and I ask for myself. If I may also be welcomed—with my tired and battered body and bones—I would be deeply grateful for the chance to rest, recover, contribute what I can and experience the beauty of being alive again.

There is no shame in begging when the request is made for peace.

God even begs us to choose love.

So, with humility, love, care, friendship, freedom and understanding, I beg everyone able to help:

Please hear us.

Please open the lands to life.

Please make the guarantee enduring.

Please do what you can—and then ask another person to follow suit.

A place to go. A word that creates space. A peaceful way back to one another.

Let friendship cross every border that domination and fear have built.

One final appeal

Before silence
becomes permanent.

One final appeal: please do not mistake another person’s defeat, disappearance or silence for victory over an enemy that fear created inside the human imagination. When all of us are eventually gone, no moment of triumph over an imagined monster will restore a single lost life, missed conversation or rejected chance to understand one another. Some absences cannot be repaired. This is not a threat or a wish for anyone’s death. It is a reminder that life is finite and that repair has a time in which it remains possible.

A person may gather wealth, status, authority and power, yet remain unable to purchase one honest moment of warmth or belonging. Causing fear, humiliation, misery or pain does not make anybody greater. It only increases the distance between people until power finally receives the silence it demanded—and discovers that silence cannot provide friendship, forgiveness or love.

The desire to dominate may begin in wounds, neglect, fear or lessons inherited from others. A person may have been taught a way of living that they never consciously chose and do not truly want. That can help explain the path behind them, but it does not have to determine the path ahead.

Please look within without fear. If you discover that you were wrong, say so while somebody is still here to hear you. Being wrong is not defeat. It is called learning. Changing direction is not weakness. It is courage returning.

Do not wait for a silence that no wealth or victory can fill. Choose repair while repair is still possible. Choose warmth while somebody is present to receive it. Choose friendship before fear leaves everyone alone.

AL

Ah-mee twoh-foh